Authentic Being and Conscious Doing
If the yin and yang of our energy are our being and doing, then authentic being and conscious doing allow our energies to move in the same direction as Spirit. Are you, through your intentions and desires, moving in the same direction as your Spirit? Or are you caught up in needing life to be a certain way in order to feel okay about yourself? When what we do is rooted in fear or feelings of inadequacy, we are not moving in the direction of Spirit.
You move in the same direction as Spirit when you live out of your authentic Self. Authenticity supports right action and ownership of your creative process. Have you ever not spoken your truth in order not to hurt someone or in order to get someone to like you? We do this all the time. Think of the last time someone asked you how you were feeling or doing. You probably answered, “Just fine.” What if you didn’t feel okay, or what if things were really terrible? Would you tell the truth? Or how about a situation where you feel betrayed by a trusted friend? Do you test the friendship by speaking your mind? You can readily see how conflict is connected to issues of authenticity when you look at the ways you may have compromised your own principles in order to please someone else—or not displease someone.
God needs you to be who you really are, because who you are is what makes you real. Your likes and dislikes, your needs and desires, and your hopes and dreams all play into how God effectively works through you to be a Presence in your life and in the lives of those you touch.
Authentic being leads to conscious doing. Conscious doing comes out of who you are as the expression of God. If what you do is not connected to the intention to serve God, it is not conscious; it is conditioned. In other words, for some activity to be considered conscious, it must be related to your spiritual purpose and living out of that intention. If you are not doing that which is the intention of the universe to fulfill itself through you as the expression of God, whatever that looks like in the context of your authentic Self, then what you do is not conscious doing, but conditioned doing.
When the poles of being and doing become imbalanced (out of integrity) or conflicted, an interference pattern of energies arises and creates tension and stress in your life. You can readily see how much conflict is created in relationships when you are unable, for whatever reason, to speak your truth. You may not always know how you feel about a particular issue in the moment, but you usually know when you have acquiesced against your better judgment.
Regret is often a symptom of not being authentic in relation to a particular circumstance. When you fail to speak your truth or act in integrity with your own values and guiding principles, you experience a measure of torment. While you may have difficulty in defining your own sense of authenticity, you are acutely aware when you are not being true to yourself.
Not speaking our truth is a strategy most of us learned as children. We all have been raised to blend in to some degree, or not feel our feelings. It is no wonder that so many of us have become codependent in our relationships. We have found greater security and comfort in meeting other people’s needs, responding to other people’s feelings rather than our own. Authenticity is a fundamental component of wholeness. It honors all that we are. With authenticity, we become co-creators of a fulfilling life that springs forth from all which is genuine and beautiful in us. Authenticity is the litmus test of our self-worth.
When we truly value ourselves, we live in integrity with our spiritual nature. Authentic being and conscious doing are the quintessential nature of self. It could be said that authentic being and conscious doing are the energy of individuality and the field within which we express our wholeness. When we are true to our principles and values and when we value others and ourselves, our energy field is dynamic and filled with potential.
But when we have our being and doing mixed up—when we need to be right instead of doing the right thing, for instance—our energy field is discordant. Discord produces disharmony and sets interfering patterns of energy in motion. In time, every energy pattern comes back to its source.
Gary Simmons is an ordained Unity minister and conflict management consultant, developing conflict management systems as well as training other conflict managers. This article is from his book, The I of the Storm.